Busy, busy, busy. We are all so busy. It's as if we are all in the competition to win the gold medal of busy-ness, afraid to be seen as lazy or slacking. What many of us forget is that the opposite of busy is not lazy.

My mom is one of those people that is moving all the time. If she sits still for 20 minutes, she feels like she is being lazy. This is not the way I function, and it took me a long time to stop feeling inferior because of it.

As an intuitive and empath, I feel things deeply, and am often over stimulated. I've been told I am just "too sensitive," which used to offend me or make me think there was something wrong with me. I now realize that there is nothing wrong, I just require more down time than some people do. Mindfulness is one tool I use to create that down time.

I used to make myself wrong when the babysitter would arrive and I would spend the first half hour meditating. As I tried to quiet my mind, I would fight with myself that I should be "doing something" more productive. Why was I paying someone to watch my kids so I could just sit there?

I finally realized that the half hour I spent meditating and centering myself was more productive than anything else I could have done with that time. I needed to get quiet to connect with the still small voice within me that would guide me where to go, and I couldn't do that in the frazzled state I was in after dealing with three kids. But because I didn't have a tangible monetary outcome to prove that it had been "worth it," it took a long time for me to stop feeling guilty about it.

Time after time I have found that I am most productive when I am not trying, or forcing, or "working on" my business (busy-ness.) It's while I am raking the leaves, or doing the dishes, or talking to a friend, that the a-ha from the previous quiet time will come through. If I maintain a constant state of busy-ness, I just bang my head against the wall trying to force something to happen, instead of letting it organically flow into existence.

So I wonder, what would happen if we stopped the glorification of busy, and allowed ourselves more time to BE?

I can hear you now, and I feel your frustration. As the mom of 3 and an entrepreneur I know there are only so many hours in the day. And yet you have to know how you function best and take some down time if you need it. You have to know your limits, trying to push past them is actually counterproductive. You have to make time to hear the still small voice that will skip over the unnecessary, time consuming steps and lead you to the gold.

Still not sure how you could possibly make this happen? Contact me and we can come up with a plan. I have a feeling you already know what to do, you just have to allow some space to hear it.

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